The Bloody Doors Off

You know, I really don’t get it. Have the rules changed so much in the past 12 months? Is there a cheat sheet I can access when it comes to having a conversation?

Here’s the deal. I started a conversation last night with someone on OKCupid. Now, unless you’ve lived under a rock or are completely allergic to the news/Facebook, you’d heard about the guy who set up a female profile on OKC and ended up deleting it after 2 hours because of the testosterone-fueled morons who bombarded ‘her’ with demands for sex and other stupid shit. This woman I was chatting with actually commented how refreshing it was that my profile actually said something, as well as carrying on a decent conversation.

But this morning, it seems, I committed a ‘cardinal sin’. I didn’t finish a comment with asking a question. Yes you want to get to know the person on the end of the tube (the internet is made of tuuuuuuuuuuubes) but I didn’t realize that ‘getting to know you’ talk strictly had to be question and answer. I believe in allowing the conversation to grow organically. Maybe you’ll say something I think is interesting and wish to add to, or have you elaborate on. I don’t want to just discard it to ask what your 5 favorite movies are.

Maybe I’m just old-fashioned that way. I’m not expecting magic overnight. I don’t discount someone because they failed to ask/answer a particular question. Connections take time. Don’t be so quickly dismissive. What’s the damned rush?